for men

So you think she might be pregnant...

If your wife or girlfriend is pregnant, you have a lot to think about and some tough decisions to make. The men on staff at Life Choices Center are available to help you think through your situation, provide you with resources and support you however we can with our free, confidential services.

Just call or text 607.205.8506 or email Russ at director@lifechoicescenter.org.

First, some bad news, some good news, and a few do's and don'ts.

The bad news: A woman can choose to have an abortion without the permission of the baby’s father. If this doesn’t seem fair to you, we agree.

The good news: You can still have a say in the outcome of the pregnancy. Most women truly want the input of their baby’s father with such a big decision. Your support means a lot to her right now.

The Do's:
• Listen and support. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are both the parents. No matter what happens with your relationship in the future, you will always be the father of this baby.
• Talk about it—not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
• Get the facts. Seek out all the information and good advice you can get so you can make the best possible decision. Read more about your options here.

The Don'ts:
• Bail. You can try to run from this, but it’s not going away. Here’s your chance to step up, take responsibility and grow personally through a tough experience.
• Pressure her. Be honest and make your opinions known, but don’t push her to do something she doesn’t want to do or make a decision too quickly.
• Leave it all up to her. This is your child as much as it is hers, and you need to work together toward the best outcome for all three of you.

Free stuff
If you're about to become a dad, you have lots to think about. Download a free father's needs checklist to help you organize your thoughts.

One rapper's story
In 1979, Nick Cannon's mom found herself pregnant at age 17 and struggled with her choices. Click play below to see Nick's rap video tribute to his mother and the choice she made to give him life. More true stories here.